Parenting entails a little bit of hypocrisy. If it didn’t, what would teenagers have to write angsty poetry about?
There will be times, no matter how much you try to be the model citizen, that you will expect of your children more than you can manage yourself. Sometimes that’s ok, and sometimes it can be damaging.
Consider the following scenarios:
Scenario 1 – DON’T YOU RAISE YOUR VOICE AT ME!
As you say it, you know it’s ridiculous.
Comment: Could do better.
Scenario 2 – Coca Cola is poison
Many of us don’t allow our kids to drink coke, yet we may have the odd can on the sly. How embarrassed would you feel if he caught you?
Comment: Please try harder.
Scenario 3 – Don’t! (whack) You! (whack) Hit! (whack) Your Brother! (whack whack whack)
Why’s it OK for you, and not for him? Oh, because you’re bigger? I see…
Comment: See me.
Scenario 4 – Don’t you lie to me…
You preach to them about the value of honesty, but when you’re standing at the ticket booth at Legoland and they ask how old your 3-year old is, you claim he’s 2, to save yourself £35.
Comment: Go to the headmaster’s office.
If only we realised that the most powerful lessons our children learn are the ones we role-model.
Parenting and hypocrisy go hand-in-hand because we feel that it’s easier to change them than it is to change ourselves.
I’m not saying ‘Be perfect, or else.’ But I am saying ‘Don’t kid yourself, they’re watching your every move’.
DISCLAIMER: WE ARE ALL HUMAN. WE ALL MESS UP. (BUT IT HELPS TO KNOW WHAT WE’RE AIMING AT.)